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Hattingen: Ihre Frau Bea starb im heimischen Wohnzimmer

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Christiane Rüters mit ihrer – im Juli verstorbenen – Frau Beate Pianka (li.). Seit dem Sommer 2018 war das Paar aus Hattingen verheiratet.

Christiane Rüters mit ihrer – im Juli verstorbenen – Frau Beate Pianka (li.). Seit dem Sommer 2018 war das Paar aus Hattingen verheiratet.

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Hattingen.  Beate Pianka aus Hattingen starb im Juli an Brustkrebs. Christiane Rüters erzählt vom gemeinsamen Leben mit ihrer schwerkranken Frau bis zuletzt.

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„Ich habe getan, was ich für Bea nur tun konnte“

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Eine diffuse Angst vor Schulmedizinern

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Versucht, weiter so viel Normalität wie möglich zu leben

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„Das, was wir machen konnten, haben wir gemacht“

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„Jetzt bin ich mal wieder dran“

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