Gelsenkirchen.
Wenn die Angst vor Ablehnung das Leben bestimmt, können soziale Kontakte zur Qual werden. Eine Gelsenkirchenerin erzählt von ihrer Sozialphobie.
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Angst übernimmt in immer mehr Bereichen des Lebens die Kontrolle
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Gelsenkirchenerin: „Ab 17 Uhr gehe ich nicht mehr nach draußen“
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