Queerness

Essener über spätes Coming-out: „Ich glaube, ich bin schwul“

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Zweimal im Monat trifft sich eine Gruppe von älteren queeren Menschen in Essen-Holsterhausen. Meist mit dabei: Stefan und Johannes Persie.

Zweimal im Monat trifft sich eine Gruppe von älteren queeren Menschen in Essen-Holsterhausen. Meist mit dabei: Stefan und Johannes Persie.

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Essen-Holsterhausen.  Viele ältere schwule und lesbische Menschen sind mit Ablehnung aufgewachsen – und erleben sie bis heute. Eine Essener Gruppe will Tabus brechen.

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Viele Mitglieder der Essener Gruppe outeten sich erst spät

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Schwule und lesbische Teilnehmer tauschen sich in Essen über das Wohnen im Alter aus

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Essener: Queerness ist in Pflegeeinrichtungen häufig kein Thema

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